09-SEPTEMBER 28-2020

                                                                                  Good morning.
Any QuestionsMarkets are showing some signs of life, largely as the S&P 500 enters into correction territory.  Twice now, the market has tested a 10 percent drop from its recent (and all-time) highs, and headed higher.
Markets usually have their worst performance in September on average, making this one of the few months of 2020 where stocks have behaved as expected.  The second worst month is historically October, and with the election coming up, investors should still expect volatility.

Now here’s the rest of the news:

 

September 28, 2019

“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” —Epictetus

3 Secrets to Happiness

One morning, a friend called me in distress about her relationship with her boyfriend.  There was one misunderstanding after another, and now they weren’t talking.  After 20 minutes we worked out a plan and I’ll share it below.  But it got me thinking about how easy it is for us to slip from what I call, The Simple & Happy Life Plan.

The source of this plan, one that has made me happier and less stressed than any other resource, is called, The Art Of Living.

lt’s a series of short lessons translated from the ancient Stoic philosopher, Epictetus, and it gave me the 3-C Formula for life:

  • happily ever afterControl what you can.
  • Cope with what you can’t.
  • Concentrate on what counts.

I take this to mean:

  • You can only control your thoughts, words and deeds.  What you say, how you think, and what you do can make a situation better or worse, so choose wisely.
  • You can’t control other people or their moods, or the weather, or traffic.  That means we must be prepared to cope with the wild and wacky ups-and-downs of friends, family, and yes, even the weather.  (Always remember: You control your reaction.  You can raise your voice, or you can be calm.  It’s your choice.)
  • You must concentrate on what counts.  Focus on what really matters in life, not the things that won’t matter in 3 months, 3 weeks, 3 days, or 3 hours from now.

But wait, what really matters?

The answer, according to science from Harvard University, is that we must focus our time and energy on people and experiences — these two things matter more than anything else in life when it comes to our happiness.

In a study that started all the way back in 1938, and has since tracked over 700 people (including JFK!), if you want to be happy, don’t chase money or fame.

Instead, spend more time with others that you love.

The most important factor in happiness, long-term health, and wellbeing is:

The strength of your relationships with your family, friends, and spouse.

happiness isThe study has also led to other interesting findings such as:

  • The #1 thing you can do for your health is to avoid smoking.
  • Alcohol was the primary cause of divorce.
  • Alcohol abuse often precedes depression.

But most importantly…

“The people in the strongest relationships were protected against chronic disease, mental illness and memory decline — even if the relationships had ups and downs.  Those good relationships don’t have to be smooth all the time,” said Dr. Robert Waldinger, the current leader of the research study.

“Some of our octogenarian couples could bicker day in and day out.  But as long as they felt that they could really count on the other when the going got tough, those arguments didn’t take a toll on their memories.”

So what does the Harvard study suggest we do?

Well, it’s the same sort of plan I gave my friend to help her relationship… (yep, I’m a regular ol’ Dr. Phil here, ha!)

The Plan for My Friend to Regain Her Happiness & Relationship

Happiness and Relationships1. Stop trying to have the difficult conversations via email.  You must talk things through face-to-face.  When he gets home tonight, go for a walk.  We communicate — and understand one another — better in person, especially when the conversations are difficult.

2. Once you sort out the issue, do something new together.  The Harvard study recommends livening up stale relationships with long walks or date nights.  My good friends, Bedros and Di Keuilian, go out every Tuesday for a date night.  It’s one of the foundations of their strong marriage.

3. Don’t ignore conflict.  The old saying about “Never go to bed mad” is great advice that stands the test of time.  This goes for family relationships, too.  According to the Harvard study, we should “reach out to the family member we haven’t spoken to in years — because those family feuds take a terrible toll on the people who hold the grudges.”

No one’s perfect, myself included, and we won’t ever live a life free of conflict, but as long as we work to strengthen the relationships with our loved ones, and focus on people and experiences, we’ll live a long, satisfied, and healthy life…  😉

IMG_0712
Come From Aways, Do You?

More Posts

07-JULY 29-2021

Good morning. Yesterday saw the latest Fed meeting.  As expected, the Fed had some nice things to say about how the economy was doing, and why all those rising prices and shrinking portion sizes at the grocery store were temporary.  But when it came to, say, pulling back on the billions of dollars per day of bond buying, the central bank once again punted on the issue, saying they were looking into it. This is a replay of its model from the last crisis.  Yes, the Fed will eventually scale back its bond buying, possibly even to zero.  And it

07-JULY 28-2021

Good morning. Last week saw the stock market dive on rising Delta variants to Covid 19.  Yesterday saw a big drop, particularly for tech.  The reason?  A crackdown by China over a number of companies there. These drops are usually healthy, as they help curb speculation and keep traders on their toes, either by quickly turning profits into losses, or by creating new trading opportunities at a better value.  This summer’s market is starting to look like the summers in the mid-1990s when tech stocks would correct going into the autumn, only to end the year higher.  In the meantime,

07-JULY 27-2021

Good morning. Trading is fun and exciting, and being able to leverage small short-term moves into big profits makes for a fun and profitable hobby, even with the occasional big loss to talk about.  But some of the best returns can come from taking a long-term position in a multi-year trend. In a special edition of Trading Tips today, we’ll be looking more in-depth at what’s set to be the biggest trend of the decade.  It’s potentially a $30 trillion market, far bigger than 5G, the Internet of Things, all the meme stocks combined, and even cryptocurrencies.  It’s changing the

07-JULY 26-2021

Good morning. As much as Wall Street loves rumors, Washington DC is the major league.  The latest rumors are that Federal Reserve Chairman Jerome Powell might not be nominated for a second term to lead the Fed.  While his tenure has been little different than his prior two predecessors given the crises he’s had to deal with, some progressives don’t think the Fed chair has done enough on income inequality and other matters. That could lead the White House to find a more radical leader for the central bank, potentially even one willing to embrace the latest economic theories such

07-JULY 25-2021

Here’s to a better YOU … and now … Today’s DarrenDaily Recap Sunday.  A collection of the weeks videos from Darren Hardy.  Enjoy! Naturally beautiful: Waves Crash Across the Rocky Shore. … I’ll watch awhile!. July 25, 2020 David Newman suggests YOU Grow Your Business with a Book! One of the fastest ways to grow your business (especially now) is with a book that positions you as an expert. Why? Because as opposed to webinars or events a book gives your prospect instant gratification.  They are able to download it and consume it the exact moment they see it. So

07-JULY 24-2021

Letting Go Of Guilt “Guilt can stop us from taking healthy care of ourselves.” –Melody Beattie Guilt is like a rock.  It sits in the pit of our stomachs and can weigh down our every thought, behavior, and action.  It can distract us all throughout the day and keep us awake at night.  Our muscles work overtime just to carry it around, and yet we still hold onto it. It’s imperative that we stop feeling so guilty. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t feel guilt.  True guilt is a loving instrument from Spiritual Guidance used to convict, correct, and confirm your

07-JULY 23-2021

Good morning. Technology companies need to constantly innovate.  That results in a high amount of money being spent on research and development, which in turn helps keep a company’s taxes lower than a company that makes the same product year-in, year-out. So it’s no surprise that regulators are always on the lookout for ways to try and get more taxes out of these massive firms that often have little to no earnings.  One proposal is being floated for a new generation of technology: a space tax.  Or, more specifically, a per-passenger tax on space flights like the ones just completed

Like this article?

Share on facebook
Share on Facebook
Share on twitter
Share on Twitter
Share on linkedin
Share on Linkdin
Share on pinterest
Share on Pinterest

Leave a comment

Send Us A Message