The Power of Your Words (and Thoughts)

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”

How often have you heard or said that age-old nursery rhyme — to yourself or someone you care about?  Probably more times than you can remember.  And while it has good intentions, the reality is it couldn’t be further from the truth…
Words have tremendous power.  They can hurt, and they can heal.  They can tear down someone’s world or build it up.
Thanks in part to broadened lines of communication (like social media and text messaging), people are more likely than ever to rip each other apart with hurtful words (as they hide behind the veil of technology.)
If that wasn’t bad enough, we are the masters of getting in our own way.  Yes, it may seem like the world is out to get us, but we’ve got enough going on under the hood to take ourselves out of the game with self-sabotaging negative thoughts (i.e., inner dialogue) and harsh speech toward others.

In his seminal book The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz urges readers to be impeccable with your word:

  • Speak with integrity.
  • Say only what you mean.
  • Avoid using words to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
  • Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Your words have the power to both create and destroy.  The words we choose build our own reality and the reality of those around us.  Be thoughtful about what you say. You have great power in your speech that can unleash a forceful fury that can create, tear down, build, heal, or hurt.

Every time you open your mouth is an opportunity to stay true to yourself and what you value… or an opportunity to stray from that path.  It is up to you whether the self-fulfilling prophecies you articulate become a delight or a dungeon — for yourself and for others around you.

As yourself…

  • How do l speak to myself and others?
  • In what way is my speech positive and encouraging?
  • In what ways do l have a hard time controlling my tongue?
  • How do others speak to you?  Are there people around you who gossip and speak negatively about others?  Who are the encouraging people who lift you and others up?
  • Think of an area of life you tend to complain about or speak negatively of.  Challenge yourself to find a way to express gratitude every time you are tempted to complain.

To a better understanding!

June 06, 2019

You have the power within.  It’s not your past that’s going to define who you are, but it’s what you believe about yourself; what is it that you expect from yourself. @TereraiTrent

TRUTH: Everything Worthwhile is…

No matter what you want in life, there is one simple truth that you have to accept: Everything worthwhile is uphill.  There are no shortcuts, and there are no fast tracks.  Virtually anything that has value and purpose requires work to attain it.  You have to put in the effort to get what and where you want.

Whether it’s a good marriage, a successful career, a healthier, better-looking body, you name it, you have to work at it.

Put differently, anything and everything you desire in life, everything you would like to strive for, is uphill, meaning that the pursuit of it is often challenging, grueling, exhausting, strenuous, and difficult.  No person who has climbed the mountain of success (in any domain) ever said, “I have no idea how I got to the top of this mountain.  I just woke up one day, and here I was.”

Any climb uphill must be deliberate, consistent, and willful.  It must be intentional.  And the climb also requires tremendous self-discipline, which is essential for a successful life.  If everything worthwhile is uphill, that means you have to make the choice to go and get it.  You have to put one foot in front of the other and take that hill one step at a time.

You must grow and stretch yourself a little every day.

What is that that keeps you from climbing?  What are your “downhill habits” that are weighing you down?  What are your “downhill beliefs” that are holding you back?  We ALL have them, and one of the most important steps in the powerfully rewarding uphill journey is recognizing what they are.  And there’s a good chance you have more than one.  That’s okay; that’s normal.

The key is tackling them one at a time — not all at once, as that typically leads to feelings of frustration and overwhelm.  Focus and work (really work) on one downhill habit or belief at a time, and each time you successfully uproot one, make sure you give yourself an uphill hope.

After all, the uphill climb never stops.  It’s not a matter of “when” you achieve a certain goal or “if” you just get that next shiny object.  Every day is an opportunity to take climb a little further uphill, and as you get higher and higher, the view just keeps getting better and better.

To The Climb,  🙂

June 06, 2017

Rocking Chair

The often cynical Ernest Hemingway had this to say about letter writing: “It’s such a swell way to keep from working and yet you’ve done something.”

The “caddy” is running well again…  It cost a couple of grand to replace two coils in the engine, but now she’s runnin’ real smooth.  Touched up the front-end area where things got a bit twisted.  (I do love my silicone-sealant for repairing just-about-anything!)

Allstate Insurance is dragging their feet.  I’m waiting on them to send me the paper work!  Caryl and I have decided to keep the car.  It will be great if “we” can get a year or more out of “the caddy” before we’re faced again with the reality of replacing it.

REW

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